Ditch the idea of a quickie as a means to a fast orgasm or sexual release, and focus instead on being able to connect with your partner.A quickie doesn't have to end in orgasm."An orgasm is more of a cherry on top kind of thing Lilla says.In fact, having a quickie doesn't even necessarily mean having sex, and definitely not just penetrative sex.Lilla encourages people who come to see her to broaden their definition of a quickie and think of it as taking five, 10, or 20 minutes to connect with each other.
That can mean having a hot five minute make out or having quick oral or hand sex essentially, doing anything your grandma might call "heavy petting." Of course, it can also mean having penetrative sex when you have the time.No matter what your quickie looks like, Lilla and Chase have tips to make it as meaningful (and pleasurable) as possible.Read on for their advice.Read these stories next: Why Does Sex Feel So Good, Anyway?How To Have An Orgasm Without Taking Your Clothes Off 10 Myths Straight Men Have Been Told About Sex.If youve been in a relationship for some time, you might have pretty routine sex.
You know that its coming right before bed because thats one of the few times you see each other, but youre both tired so it doesnt last very long.You might think that you cant have sex during any other time of the day or in a new way because its such a production.But thats not necessarily true!Quickie sex is any sex that lasts a short period of time between 1 and 5 minutes per session.Often, the two of you wont entirely get undressed, and you can squeeze it in when youre running low on time, perhaps even when youre at work!